I’ve experience many highs and lows when it come to men. Keeping it real more lows than anything, but I am STILL hopeful my Boaz awaits me! When I was doing my own thing, there was non-stop action (more drama now that I look at it) from brothers and others trying to holla, dance, etc. etc. (You know the deal)  I had what I thought was fun and there seemed to never be a dull moment in my life. What more could a girl ask for? My groove was in full effect!

However, as I transitioned from one way of living to another I noticed a sharp decline in the number of brothers and others with whom I should associate, date, or even have a decent conversation without references to the “S” word. Why is that? There are many brothers and others to choose from, but where are they and how can I be in a position to be exposed to my Boaz so that he will take notice of his good thing?

I see guys at church and in other social circles, many brothers and others that I consider pretty good picks, however many of them do not fellowship or participate in other ministries of the church or better yet community involvement.

There is a wave of young adults who see the need for Christian singles to mix and mingle and I love it! It is a prayer answered, therefore bringing a fresh approach and innovative concept to “hooking up”. Atlanta Christian dating trend setters like Tanya Nebo’s “Soulo” and Nyasia Bowen’s “Finding Eve Soul Cafe” offer Christian singles a safe yet fun environment to meet quality people without compromising Christian beliefs and standards.

The Bible says, “He who finds a wife finds a good thing and finds favor with the Lord, however do I think I am so much of a “good thing” that brothers and others look over me? Does my Queenly yet Confident manner make you think twice about approaching me? Is it the sharp-tongue that speaks with conviction and power to move mountains makes you tremble.

There has been a lot of talk about the church keeping black women single, church has nothing to do with me being single, however the standards and principles by which I am advised to attract a mate may require me to wait a while longer than expected.

On the other hand I am open to dating some who may not be fully committed to the church’s ministry as I am, but have high ethical and moral standards,  goals, and striving daily to be the best person he can be with the help of God.

SMH (shaking my head)

I don’t know sometimes and often I get very frustrated, but 2010 has been a lesson in patience. This is yet one more thing that God wants me to wait on Him, for He is the giver of every good and perfect gift.

Just my observation. I hope you understand.

Be Queenly, Be Confident,

Zakiya!